ANGER (Word For The Week)
Anger is defined as a strong feeling of displeasure, hostility or antagonism towards someone or something, usually combined with an urge to harm.
Anger is one of the strongest emotions of mankind. I will rate it to be only just less powerful than love and hate. Anger has been a contributory factor to every negativity humanity has witnessed. Hate and jealousy have done a lot, but anger has likely done a lot more.
It is why you’ll attempt to shoot an annoying fly, hammer down an incorrigible two-inch nail with a wrecking ball, and punch the one person you have always placed on a pedestal in the face.
There has been an argument for “Holy Anger”. That is one argument I am yet to understand and most likely won’t anytime soon. You might have a justifiable reason to be angry, but that doesn’t make your anger a holy one, nor that of the other person a sinful one.
It is hard, if not impossible for someone to get to a level where he never gets angry anymore. (I don’t know about those who are on the Mary Jane high twenty-four hours of the day). But I do know that it is possible to bring every emotion, anger included, under control.
There is the talk of how life is ninety percent what happens to you and ten percent how you react to it. You being angry is not wrong in itself, what you do while angry is the difference-maker.
Do you go slamming doors and tables? Shouting at subordinates? Disrespecting others? Refusing to talk to everyone else? Standing your ground until everyone else comes to your point of view? Putting up a petulant attitude or throwing a tantrum will in the long run do you more harm than good.
We can’t all act the same way, but we can learn to bring our emotions under control before we become slaves to our emotions. Anger especially.
Learn to understand the perspective of the other person. Listen to assimilate rather than respond. Exercise restraint and if you think you might snap, take a break.
Do not allow your anger to cause irreparable damage to relationships that could be beneficial to you in the future. Don’t let a reputation of being a “Diva” or “Tantrum Tom” become a stumbling block to your progress.