There Is No Fear In Love (IDIOMS AND PROVERBS)
It baffles me when I see someone who is supposed to be in love, scared of their partner. How are you in a relationship?
No matter the character, personality, or psychological makeup of the person you are in a relationship with, if you fear them, that relationship is unhealthy.
The lion, no matter how strong, scary, and untamed they still treat their mates differently. Same with their cubs.
I have seen men that are tough, authoritative, unquestionable, fierce, whatever else adjective you want to qualify them with. Yet, whenever their wives or kids come around, you see a different side of them.
At that moment, they are approachable, calmer, and friendlier. You might even be able to get a smile from them.
You are not yet married, yet your presence makes no difference to them. If they are in a fight, even your kneeling or prostrating won’t change anything. Run.
When they are upset with others, even you can’t plead on the person’s behalf. You have to avoid them before they transfer the aggression on you. Run.
When you offend them, they spend the whole day angry. Their weapon of choice is the silent treatment. You have to apologize four times before they let an issue go. Run.
Every argument ends with something being damaged. They have never hit you, but each disagreement brings them one inch closer to slapping you. Run.
Their demand for respect is more than any you have ever seen in your life. Even your parents, teachers, and pastors never demanded this much respect. It is almost an obsession.
Yet, they are extremely comfortable disrespecting, verbally debasing, and throwing shade at you. Especially in public. Run.
They have a vengeful spirit. Everything is a competition. Even mistakes and offenses. Forgiveness is not in their dictionary. Run.
They are never wrong. The few times you proved they were wrong, they claimed you are taking it too personally. According to them, you are always being emotional and sentimental. Run.
If you are already married to them, and these are the things you are battling, there is hope.
It will take the both of you first acknowledging there is a problem. You need to consciously seek help. Maybe a therapist, or marriage counselor.
But if they are not yet at a place of recognizing the problem, or they are reluctant to seek help, there is still a way.
Look for books, movies, music, and sermons that touch on these subjects. Study them on your own. Share them with your spouse too.
The place of knowledge in relationships is underrated. Fear has no place in love though.
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
1 John 4:18 KJV